I completely agree, Alicia.
The beauty of ISTDP and EAET is that it allows/encourages righteous anger to such a large (extreme?) degree in our minds, that it then allows us to really let it go and take a deep breath. Then we have room for guilt and sadness; and eventually compassion (even for the other to whatever degree makes sense for the situation).
It’s a beautiful process to observe and participate in!!